I’m so excited about this. I’m hoping some gender content starts looking at things much more broadly. A big part of my healing was zooming out and looking at gender and queerness across time and space - at how every culture has gender queerness, but that there are a myriad of ways to do it - and risky medicalization is new, western, and optional. This is not the kind of messaging you get from the American “right” or “left” right now who are both so closed-minded about this topic right now but in different ways.
I love this! I agree so much with this suggestion. Sometimes we can forget that there are MANY ways to understand these issues and I love looking to other cultures and time periods to spark curiosity. Thanks for sharing your comment!
This is such a great point, and potentially transformational in helping kids and young adults hold on to their current identity label with the freedom to be non conforming without medicalizing. Hopefully this is where the queer movement can evolve to, rejecting big pharma and the medical model, and just being free to be — what we’ve all been saying all along.
Thank YOU, Sasha! We’ve been in this maelstrom for almost 4 years with our 14 y.o. daughter - and rays of light and nuanced understanding are so important and useful to find. I’ll remain hopeful that this IS a useful resource to our child …but my head does start turning to how hard it will be to get my kid to open up to take in such information when it comes from a resource that is beyond her usual media sources? …and, like most parents caught in this snare, we’ve had such difficulty finding ways to help her think critically or avail herself of “real” information on the topic. Hopeful, but not necessarily optimistic in Boston.
PS - How you plan to handle the social media comments that are likely to pile up from the ideologues who label anything that is not 100% affirmation as conversion therapy …or hate speech? Surely those will jade this terribly if allowed to flourish.
This issue has been thought about and built into the entire intro series. I also have a dedicated video to why I am committed to real therapy and not ideology
Deep gratitude for you and all of your devotion and work and care…far more than I have the words for at this time…Found you and Stella on Gender a wider lens podcast some years ago as we have been dealing with an ROGD Daughter (my stepdaughter) since 2019
This is exactly what’s been missing and what’s needed. I’ll send this resource to the families/parents I see whose children are struggling in this area.
Thank you Evelyn! I’ve created a guide for parents too, which I’ll release next week when the channel goes live - I appreciate your help in getting the word out
Thank you Sasha! You and Stella and all the sources brought in through Genspect and the Wider Lense gave me hope when I was just bewildered and lost on how to help my son. This journey has been so painful but it also, thankfully, strengthened many of my relationships. I am still hopeful for my son and our family to heal. I hope this helps my family and many others.
I absolutely love this Sasha. I am a massive terf but I think the mistake we make is hammering people over the head with our GC talking points and expecting to change minds. It doesn't really work with anyone and it's certainly not going to work with sensitive young people who are still forming their identity. So I'm so pleased to hear you will take a thoughtful approach and provide enough space for young people to think through these complex ideas themselves without being railroaded into a particular viewpoint. The trans activist position collapses under its own incoherence when it's examined, so giving young people time and space to explore all the ideas will help them see a healthy way forward. I'm sure the channel will be wonderful, can't wait to see it.
Exciting. I have long wished that I could afford just one or two sessions with you, Sasha. Alas, out of reach forever I suspect, but you and Stella have truly kept me from total disintegration and despair many a time over the last 5 plus years. Thank you for your care, compassion, passion and integrity.
I'm very excited to see this, I think these are the kinds of resources that we really need for parents and youth who have gender dysphoria. It's a horrible state of mind to be in, and as such it is difficult to discuss it rationally with a person experiencing it, because they're in so much internal distress and chaos. I'm hopeful you can help beyond the pure scaremonger tactics that drive these teens and their "ally" parents deeper into believing transitioning is the only answer.
I am so appreciative of everything you've done, Sasha. I only wish you and Stella were there way back in 2014 when our world unraveled with our son. He medically transitioned at 18 and is 29 now. He left home to live with a glitter family, and has estranged himself from us for long periods of time. I've rebuilt our relationship, brick by brick, so that we now meet for lunch once a week. However, the elephant sits uneasily in the room and the subject does not get discussed. He doesn't work or take proper care of himself, has few relationships, and his life seems hollowed out. Perhaps your YouTube channel might bring insight to a bright but immature/possibly autistic, young adult like mine.
And of course any gender questioning teens I work with. Thankfully the social contagion seems to be dying out in my area and none of the teens I currently work with are gender questioning.
I’m so excited about this. I’m hoping some gender content starts looking at things much more broadly. A big part of my healing was zooming out and looking at gender and queerness across time and space - at how every culture has gender queerness, but that there are a myriad of ways to do it - and risky medicalization is new, western, and optional. This is not the kind of messaging you get from the American “right” or “left” right now who are both so closed-minded about this topic right now but in different ways.
I love this! I agree so much with this suggestion. Sometimes we can forget that there are MANY ways to understand these issues and I love looking to other cultures and time periods to spark curiosity. Thanks for sharing your comment!
This is such a great point, and potentially transformational in helping kids and young adults hold on to their current identity label with the freedom to be non conforming without medicalizing. Hopefully this is where the queer movement can evolve to, rejecting big pharma and the medical model, and just being free to be — what we’ve all been saying all along.
Thank YOU, Sasha! We’ve been in this maelstrom for almost 4 years with our 14 y.o. daughter - and rays of light and nuanced understanding are so important and useful to find. I’ll remain hopeful that this IS a useful resource to our child …but my head does start turning to how hard it will be to get my kid to open up to take in such information when it comes from a resource that is beyond her usual media sources? …and, like most parents caught in this snare, we’ve had such difficulty finding ways to help her think critically or avail herself of “real” information on the topic. Hopeful, but not necessarily optimistic in Boston.
PS - How you plan to handle the social media comments that are likely to pile up from the ideologues who label anything that is not 100% affirmation as conversion therapy …or hate speech? Surely those will jade this terribly if allowed to flourish.
This issue has been thought about and built into the entire intro series. I also have a dedicated video to why I am committed to real therapy and not ideology
Deep gratitude for you and all of your devotion and work and care…far more than I have the words for at this time…Found you and Stella on Gender a wider lens podcast some years ago as we have been dealing with an ROGD Daughter (my stepdaughter) since 2019
Thank you thank you thank you
Amazing! I love this project already. Thank you so much for your work and care! 💛
Thank you!!! Hopeful in Ohio.
Thank you! 🙏
This is exactly what’s been missing and what’s needed. I’ll send this resource to the families/parents I see whose children are struggling in this area.
Thank you Evelyn! I’ve created a guide for parents too, which I’ll release next week when the channel goes live - I appreciate your help in getting the word out
Thank you Sasha! You and Stella and all the sources brought in through Genspect and the Wider Lense gave me hope when I was just bewildered and lost on how to help my son. This journey has been so painful but it also, thankfully, strengthened many of my relationships. I am still hopeful for my son and our family to heal. I hope this helps my family and many others.
I hope so too! Thanks Jamie. I'm so glad our work was valuable to you as a parent.
I absolutely love this Sasha. I am a massive terf but I think the mistake we make is hammering people over the head with our GC talking points and expecting to change minds. It doesn't really work with anyone and it's certainly not going to work with sensitive young people who are still forming their identity. So I'm so pleased to hear you will take a thoughtful approach and provide enough space for young people to think through these complex ideas themselves without being railroaded into a particular viewpoint. The trans activist position collapses under its own incoherence when it's examined, so giving young people time and space to explore all the ideas will help them see a healthy way forward. I'm sure the channel will be wonderful, can't wait to see it.
How can we sign our kids up?
Hi Christy. Please read the parent guide I created. The download link is in my Substack post.
Exciting. I have long wished that I could afford just one or two sessions with you, Sasha. Alas, out of reach forever I suspect, but you and Stella have truly kept me from total disintegration and despair many a time over the last 5 plus years. Thank you for your care, compassion, passion and integrity.
Looking forward to seeing this and especially the ideas for how to bring it up and share it with a trans-identified young person!
I'm very excited to see this, I think these are the kinds of resources that we really need for parents and youth who have gender dysphoria. It's a horrible state of mind to be in, and as such it is difficult to discuss it rationally with a person experiencing it, because they're in so much internal distress and chaos. I'm hopeful you can help beyond the pure scaremonger tactics that drive these teens and their "ally" parents deeper into believing transitioning is the only answer.
I am so appreciative of everything you've done, Sasha. I only wish you and Stella were there way back in 2014 when our world unraveled with our son. He medically transitioned at 18 and is 29 now. He left home to live with a glitter family, and has estranged himself from us for long periods of time. I've rebuilt our relationship, brick by brick, so that we now meet for lunch once a week. However, the elephant sits uneasily in the room and the subject does not get discussed. He doesn't work or take proper care of himself, has few relationships, and his life seems hollowed out. Perhaps your YouTube channel might bring insight to a bright but immature/possibly autistic, young adult like mine.
And of course any gender questioning teens I work with. Thankfully the social contagion seems to be dying out in my area and none of the teens I currently work with are gender questioning.
Gives me great hope to see you say you don’t currently have gender questioning adolescent patients!
What a great idea Sasha. I’m looking forward to it and will share it with my colleagues.