Yes, I would like you to “expand on these notions of acceptance-based and denial-based personal identity.” I think it would be helpful for so many, especially coming from you. I don’t have children, so my interest in this topic regarding gender-confused kids is not as personal as it is to many. But over the past few years wandering about in genderland, I have slowly realized that untangling the difference between these two ways of seeing the world extends well beyond the lens of gender. I have learned so much, broadly and for my own journey through life, from hearing the stories of detransitioners. They bring some deep wisdom to humanity. As a person aging and dealing with health concerns, I need data (bloodwork, testing, latest studies, different opinions about treatment options) to make complex decisions about my body. I am both the architect and the client. I don’t want fantasy, and I don’t want to only hear about the “happy path” from my health care providers. I want to envision my best future, but to work squarely within reality. I want to know the risks as well as the possible benefits of any choice; and here I must note that so often the risks are not presented clearly in other areas of medicine either. We’re lucky to have the internet to help some of the sorting and information gathering, imperfect as it is. The serenity prayer captures this tension that must be balanced perfectly: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” Thank you for all your insights and great contributions over the years Sasha!
Wow Elizabeth, thanks for your comment. I will expand on these ideas. This really resonated with me: "I am both the architect and the client. I don’t want fantasy, and I don’t want to only hear about the “happy path” from my health care providers. I want to envision my best future, but to work squarely within reality."
"Concept: acceptance-based personal identity rather than a denial-based identity." This resonated with me SO much. I think this could really get our kids to think about what life would really truly look like instead of the fantasy. And maybe it would be a good way to reveal the very, very small percentage of kids who really have gender dysphoria, who may actually live happier presenting as the opposite sex despite becoming a lifelong medical patient. That is truly what informed consent means. Right now everyone is selling the fantasy. Thank you for everything you do.
Thank you, Sasha. It was great seeing you in Lisbon and as East Coast Liaison for Our Duty, I am sending some folks to you! You were the catalyst for our commitment to fighting the gender beast in our house and after 5 years, we are beginning to see the light! Thank you for your courage and commitment!
Yes, I would like you to “expand on these notions of acceptance-based and denial-based personal identity.” I think it would be helpful for so many, especially coming from you. I don’t have children, so my interest in this topic regarding gender-confused kids is not as personal as it is to many. But over the past few years wandering about in genderland, I have slowly realized that untangling the difference between these two ways of seeing the world extends well beyond the lens of gender. I have learned so much, broadly and for my own journey through life, from hearing the stories of detransitioners. They bring some deep wisdom to humanity. As a person aging and dealing with health concerns, I need data (bloodwork, testing, latest studies, different opinions about treatment options) to make complex decisions about my body. I am both the architect and the client. I don’t want fantasy, and I don’t want to only hear about the “happy path” from my health care providers. I want to envision my best future, but to work squarely within reality. I want to know the risks as well as the possible benefits of any choice; and here I must note that so often the risks are not presented clearly in other areas of medicine either. We’re lucky to have the internet to help some of the sorting and information gathering, imperfect as it is. The serenity prayer captures this tension that must be balanced perfectly: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” Thank you for all your insights and great contributions over the years Sasha!
Wow Elizabeth, thanks for your comment. I will expand on these ideas. This really resonated with me: "I am both the architect and the client. I don’t want fantasy, and I don’t want to only hear about the “happy path” from my health care providers. I want to envision my best future, but to work squarely within reality."
"Concept: acceptance-based personal identity rather than a denial-based identity." This resonated with me SO much. I think this could really get our kids to think about what life would really truly look like instead of the fantasy. And maybe it would be a good way to reveal the very, very small percentage of kids who really have gender dysphoria, who may actually live happier presenting as the opposite sex despite becoming a lifelong medical patient. That is truly what informed consent means. Right now everyone is selling the fantasy. Thank you for everything you do.
exactly right, thank YOU Stephanie!
Thank you, Sasha. It was great seeing you in Lisbon and as East Coast Liaison for Our Duty, I am sending some folks to you! You were the catalyst for our commitment to fighting the gender beast in our house and after 5 years, we are beginning to see the light! Thank you for your courage and commitment!
That's lovely to hear, Kathleen! Good to connect with you IRL
TERRIFIC QUOTE:
I heard comedian Jimmy Carr say, “I think we’re being kind on the wrong time scale.”
Right!?!