Tips for Parents of Trans-Identified Kids: Life After High School with Sasha Ayad
An excerpt from a recent topic video in my Parent Membership Group
If you have a teen in High School or Secondary Education and you’re trying to figure out plans for life after high school, you’ll want to hear the considerations I lay out in this video.
We’ll discuss:
The Myth of Fittedness and why it may cause parents to send their kids off to college before their identity is stable enough for the big leap
What college (and the fresh start of moving out) might represent to your child
Ways you might be able to tell if your kid is ready for college (from an identity-formation perspective)
What has happened to university education
Establishing expectations around college
How to find universities that broaden student’s perspectives and are less likely to exacerbate a gender identity crisis
How to discern (and avoid) universities that may quickly push a child into social and medical transition
The extended version of this video is available on my Parent Membership site on SubscribeStar. You can learn more and join my group here:
Resources mentioned in this video
For K-12 Schools:
UK's Transgender Trend School Guidance
https://www.transgendertrend.com/transgender-schools-guidance/
Classical Education in the USA
https://www.thefp.com/p/inside-the-new-wave-of-classical-education
Schools Guidance from Genspect
https://genspect.org/resources/guidance/
Gender: A Wider Lens, Schools Playlist
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLngVCeAoK6vs-KvDiVE7QjpBphOg1Ckoi
Partners for Ethical Care, Guide on Protecting Kids in Schools https://www.partnersforethicalcare.com/post/how-do-i-protect-my-kids-at-school-get-them-out-or-go-on-the-offensive
Nation's Report Card (evaluation of schools on various metrics) https://www.nationsreportcard.gov/ Parents Unite https://www.parentsunite.org/
For College and Universities:
Avoid these schools covering medical transition costs for students https://www.campuspride.org/tpc/student-health-insurance/
Playlist, Dr Lyell Asher on Issues Within US Universities
FIRE: Foundation for Individual Rights and Expression (free speech on campus)
https://www.thefire.org/colleges
College Free Speech Rankings (FIRE + College Plus)
https://rankings.thefire.org/
Alumni Free Speech Alliance - Free speech groups on various US university campuses
https://www.alumnifreespeechalliance.org/
American Council of Trustees and Alumni - Promoting academic excellence, freedom, accountability in Higher Ed
https://www.goacta.org/
New Higher Ed Institutions that Value Freedom of Expression and Viewpoint Diversity:
Ralston College - https://www.ralston.ac/
University of Austin - https://www.uaustin.org/
This came at a perfect time. Our son graduated HS in May. For most of his senior year he planned in taking a gap year. He told his dad, 2 older sisters and myself about his chosen identity 2 1/2 years ago. Other than his online friends no one else has been told. I worried that he wanted the gap year to transition and he would be passing up an amazing academic scholarship to an instate school. I’m May he confirmed he was going to college. My son, Jack*, had all paperwork for college and dorm assignment done in his given name. We went to orientation at the beginning of June and everything still in his name. Two weeks ago we had an online meeting with his advisor. The advisor comes on and says “Hi Jill*”. Not Jack. I look at his computer and see the name Jill at the top. He has put in for a different dorm assignment, requesting gender inclusion or private. He has not heard from the roommate he was assigned with. I can only imagine that poor kid, wondering why he got put with someone named Jill. I am at a lose of what to do. Getting him to go to college what such a huge feet. Now I don’t know if it was the right thing. I had thought we were moving through this. As I had noticed subtle signs that I thought might be desistance. His college campus does not offer cross sex hormones. I called and asked. But I’m sure kids can find them off campus.