This came at a perfect time. Our son graduated HS in May. For most of his senior year he planned in taking a gap year. He told his dad, 2 older sisters and myself about his chosen identity 2 1/2 years ago. Other than his online friends no one else has been told. I worried that he wanted the gap year to transition and he would be passing up an amazing academic scholarship to an instate school. I’m May he confirmed he was going to college. My son, Jack*, had all paperwork for college and dorm assignment done in his given name. We went to orientation at the beginning of June and everything still in his name. Two weeks ago we had an online meeting with his advisor. The advisor comes on and says “Hi Jill*”. Not Jack. I look at his computer and see the name Jill at the top. He has put in for a different dorm assignment, requesting gender inclusion or private. He has not heard from the roommate he was assigned with. I can only imagine that poor kid, wondering why he got put with someone named Jill. I am at a lose of what to do. Getting him to go to college what such a huge feet. Now I don’t know if it was the right thing. I had thought we were moving through this. As I had noticed subtle signs that I thought might be desistance. His college campus does not offer cross sex hormones. I called and asked. But I’m sure kids can find them off campus.
Thank you, Sasha. Your work is invaluable. My teenage, autistic son thought he was trans for about a year after being indoctrinated online during Covid lockdown. I know! So cliche! It nearly broke us. He tells us he no longer thinks he's trans, but next year plans to attend one of the most pro-trans campuses in Australia. There is also a conversion practices ban in place here to contend with, thanks to our woke politicians, making it illegal to attempt to change or supress someone's declared gender identity. I'm terrified they will pull him back in, and by then he will legally be an adult, so there will be nothing we can do.
This came at a perfect time. Our son graduated HS in May. For most of his senior year he planned in taking a gap year. He told his dad, 2 older sisters and myself about his chosen identity 2 1/2 years ago. Other than his online friends no one else has been told. I worried that he wanted the gap year to transition and he would be passing up an amazing academic scholarship to an instate school. I’m May he confirmed he was going to college. My son, Jack*, had all paperwork for college and dorm assignment done in his given name. We went to orientation at the beginning of June and everything still in his name. Two weeks ago we had an online meeting with his advisor. The advisor comes on and says “Hi Jill*”. Not Jack. I look at his computer and see the name Jill at the top. He has put in for a different dorm assignment, requesting gender inclusion or private. He has not heard from the roommate he was assigned with. I can only imagine that poor kid, wondering why he got put with someone named Jill. I am at a lose of what to do. Getting him to go to college what such a huge feet. Now I don’t know if it was the right thing. I had thought we were moving through this. As I had noticed subtle signs that I thought might be desistance. His college campus does not offer cross sex hormones. I called and asked. But I’m sure kids can find them off campus.
Hi Ann, that's really challenging. Thanks for sharing a bit about your story here.
Too late for our family. Hopefully it will help others with younger kids
Thank you, Sasha. Your work is invaluable. My teenage, autistic son thought he was trans for about a year after being indoctrinated online during Covid lockdown. I know! So cliche! It nearly broke us. He tells us he no longer thinks he's trans, but next year plans to attend one of the most pro-trans campuses in Australia. There is also a conversion practices ban in place here to contend with, thanks to our woke politicians, making it illegal to attempt to change or supress someone's declared gender identity. I'm terrified they will pull him back in, and by then he will legally be an adult, so there will be nothing we can do.