This came at a perfect time. Our son graduated HS in May. For most of his senior year he planned in taking a gap year. He told his dad, 2 older sisters and myself about his chosen identity 2 1/2 years ago. Other than his online friends no one else has been told. I worried that he wanted the gap year to transition and he would be passing up an amazing academic scholarship to an instate school. I’m May he confirmed he was going to college. My son, Jack*, had all paperwork for college and dorm assignment done in his given name. We went to orientation at the beginning of June and everything still in his name. Two weeks ago we had an online meeting with his advisor. The advisor comes on and says “Hi Jill*”. Not Jack. I look at his computer and see the name Jill at the top. He has put in for a different dorm assignment, requesting gender inclusion or private. He has not heard from the roommate he was assigned with. I can only imagine that poor kid, wondering why he got put with someone named Jill. I am at a lose of what to do. Getting him to go to college what such a huge feet. Now I don’t know if it was the right thing. I had thought we were moving through this. As I had noticed subtle signs that I thought might be desistance. His college campus does not offer cross sex hormones. I called and asked. But I’m sure kids can find them off campus.
This came at a perfect time. Our son graduated HS in May. For most of his senior year he planned in taking a gap year. He told his dad, 2 older sisters and myself about his chosen identity 2 1/2 years ago. Other than his online friends no one else has been told. I worried that he wanted the gap year to transition and he would be passing up an amazing academic scholarship to an instate school. I’m May he confirmed he was going to college. My son, Jack*, had all paperwork for college and dorm assignment done in his given name. We went to orientation at the beginning of June and everything still in his name. Two weeks ago we had an online meeting with his advisor. The advisor comes on and says “Hi Jill*”. Not Jack. I look at his computer and see the name Jill at the top. He has put in for a different dorm assignment, requesting gender inclusion or private. He has not heard from the roommate he was assigned with. I can only imagine that poor kid, wondering why he got put with someone named Jill. I am at a lose of what to do. Getting him to go to college what such a huge feet. Now I don’t know if it was the right thing. I had thought we were moving through this. As I had noticed subtle signs that I thought might be desistance. His college campus does not offer cross sex hormones. I called and asked. But I’m sure kids can find them off campus.